Safety tips

Most people on Dare are here for the same reason as you: they want to meet someone. But, as anywhere you meet new people, it's good to be careful. Nobody can guarantee who the other person is, not even us, so trust your instincts: if something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.

Online

• Keep your details to yourself. Don't give out your address, workplace, full name, bank details, codes you receive by SMS or passwords, however nice the other person seems.
• Never send money. No one on Dare has a good reason to ask you for money, gifts, prepaid card codes or “investments”, however moving the story. Report it straight away.
• Stay on Dare until you know them. In the app you have the lock, the flame, blocking and reporting. Someone who insists on quickly moving the conversation somewhere else may have a reason.
• A selfie taken now says a lot. Dares start with a selfie taken on the spot. If the person in the conversation doesn't look like the one in the photos, or avoids any selfie, stop.
• Think before you send photos. Anything you send can be copied. The lock and the flame help, but they don't stop a screenshot or a photo taken with another phone.

Signs of a scam

• they declare strong feelings very quickly, even though you've only just met;
• they always have a reason not to meet: they're away, in the army, working on an oil rig;
• they tell you about an emergency, an illness or a customs fee that has to be paid;
• they suggest a safe “investment”, usually in cryptocurrency;
• they ask you for intimate photos, then threaten to make them public.

If you recognise any of these signs, stop the conversation and report them. If you're threatened with images being made public, don't pay: keep the evidence and tell the police.

Protect your account

• Don't give anyone the code you receive by SMS when you sign in. We will never ask you for it either.
• Set a screen lock on your phone, so nobody else can get into Dare.
• If you need a break or don't want to be seen for a while, turn on Civil Mode.

On a first date

• In a public place, with people around: a café, a restaurant, a busy park. Not at your place, not at theirs.
• Tell a friend where you're going, who with and when you expect to be back. Message them when you arrive and when you leave.
• Arrive and leave on your own. Have your own transport, so you can leave at any time. Don't get into the car of someone you've only just met.
• Be careful with drinks. Don't leave your glass unattended, don't accept drinks you didn't see being poured, and don't drink more than is good for you.
• Keep your phone charged and close to hand.
• You can leave at any time. You don't owe anyone a whole evening. If you feel uncomfortable, leave.

Consent and health

• Consent is given every time and can be withdrawn at any time. A “no” is an answer, and silence is not a “yes”.
• Talk openly about boundaries and protection. Use condoms and get tested regularly.

If something went wrong

• Block and report: in the chat, the three-dot menu → Block or Report. When you report someone, you also block them: they no longer see you and you no longer see them.
• Also report what happened on a date, not just in the app. We read every report.
• Keep the evidence: screenshots, messages, dates, times. It helps if you decide to go to the police.
• You are not to blame. If something bad happened to you, it's not your fault. Ask someone close to you or a professional for help.

You'll find more in the Community Guidelines.

Useful numbers

• 112: the emergency number everywhere in the European Union.
• 911: the emergency number in the United States.
• 0800 500 333: in Romania, the free helpline for victims of domestic violence.
• 116 111: the child helpline in the European Union.